tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-514123506693676722.post7680573795977588887..comments2011-02-05T23:36:25.324-08:00Comments on Álit: Weddings: Part IÁlithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05677441277841607225noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-514123506693676722.post-23483264675872521242010-07-16T21:07:03.838-07:002010-07-16T21:07:03.838-07:00Charlotte - I do agree that one should let people ...Charlotte - I do agree that one should let people "do their thing" to a certain extent, and as a society we should make more of an effort to mind our own business and stop the criticism of other people's ways.<br /><br />However, I think the reason I speak so passionately about this topic is because I don't understand. Why link love with an extravagant wedding; why link love with money? Reading your post, I was tempted to say simply, "People are not mindful of the consequences, and that is why I criticize." But that would be false. I believe people are fully aware of the consequences of a costly wedding. And yet, they drop down the dough anyway. <br /><br />That is what simply bewilders me. Maybe it's just me; speaking for myself, I seem not to make that connection between love - romantic, platonic, or otherwise - and luxury.<br /><br />That's the question I now want to ask; if, as you said (probably correctly), people by default "link that big ceremony with the love they are feeling," why is this so? Why do our minds feel the need to put our love on display? Is it a twisted way to prove our love for one another, or something more?<br /><br />I have several theories on this topic, but first, I would love to hear yours. And along that line, I think you have leaded us on an excellent tangent here. I will further examine this topic for my next article. Hope you don't mind being quoted.Álithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05677441277841607225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-514123506693676722.post-12672244765167631592010-07-15T21:53:35.994-07:002010-07-15T21:53:35.994-07:00I definitely agree that, especially in this econom...I definitely agree that, especially in this economy, super extravagant weddings and events do seem a bit outrageous. That said, I know I hope to have a nice wedding and maybe one day we can invite each other to our weddings to see how it all turns out. :)Gracenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-514123506693676722.post-16810606853844142872010-07-15T19:52:09.707-07:002010-07-15T19:52:09.707-07:00Maybe it's not that weddings should be the fir...Maybe it's not that weddings should be the first thing to go; the problem stems from people linking that big, over-the-top ceremony with the extent of the love they are feeling at the dawn of their marriage. <br />People definitely shouldn't connect the two; however, I don't feel as if you are in a position to chide the public on their spending habits. if people want a wedding of $100,000, let them have it, as long as they are mindful of the consequences. The marriage industry is huge, to say the least, but as long as you yourself are wary of it, it's not necessary to criticize others.Charlottenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-514123506693676722.post-36509370401685518012010-07-15T17:17:41.427-07:002010-07-15T17:17:41.427-07:00Agreed, I do think the wedding should be adjusted ...Agreed, I do think the wedding should be adjusted to your limits. And we're talking realistically here - one of the problems with America is we don't set realistic boundaries. That's why people get seven credit cards and throw caution to the wind when it comes to buying. That's why we're so liberal with our money. People need to say, "No, I can't afford those shoes, and so I'll get something else" - they need to recognize that they're not in the same league as other people when it comes to money. That's something that we as a country need to pay more regard to. Optimism's great, but not when it comes to money. You have to prepare for the worst. I strongly believe that weddings are an excellent place to start - as I said, they really should be the first things to go.Álithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05677441277841607225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-514123506693676722.post-43678370436948922172010-07-15T17:13:05.039-07:002010-07-15T17:13:05.039-07:00Everything depends, I guess, but I agree that wedd...Everything depends, I guess, but I agree that weddings are luxuries for those who can't pay off the twenty thousand dollars or whatever amount it is, it's irresponsible if you're struggling, if you can pull it off go ahead, like you said, reserve them for those who can really payPaulYinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-514123506693676722.post-5612842167667938122010-07-15T17:11:34.674-07:002010-07-15T17:11:34.674-07:00I mean, like, if you're well-to-do, go ahead a...I mean, like, if you're well-to-do, go ahead and have the wedding, if you're poor, don'tPaulYinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-514123506693676722.post-23043652023896410792010-07-15T17:10:52.090-07:002010-07-15T17:10:52.090-07:00i think he means whehter they can pay off the wedd...i think he means whehter they can pay off the wedding or not, that makes sensRubes5529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-514123506693676722.post-40887629947649204442010-07-15T17:09:30.730-07:002010-07-15T17:09:30.730-07:00PaulYin -
I must say, I was a little unclear on w...PaulYin - <br />I must say, I was a little unclear on what you were trying to commuicate - "depending on their situation"?Álithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05677441277841607225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-514123506693676722.post-55274943101197539252010-07-15T17:09:02.767-07:002010-07-15T17:09:02.767-07:00I am ambivalent, some ways I think weddings are a ...I am ambivalent, some ways I think weddings are a valuable tradition, others I think, this is way too much, it's untasteful, but I think we should let people do what they want and either suffer the consequences or reap the benefits depending on their situationPaulYinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-514123506693676722.post-17615632196409443192010-07-15T17:07:10.431-07:002010-07-15T17:07:10.431-07:00Weddings represent love and family coming together...Weddings represent love and family coming together as one, what is unnecessary about that?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-514123506693676722.post-89752558617944360262010-07-15T17:06:20.391-07:002010-07-15T17:06:20.391-07:00agreed, wedings are very expensive, but for some, ...agreed, wedings are very expensive, but for some, i guess they are worth it<br />i had a modest wdeding in a chapel and i am now enjoying a happy marriage, i cannot say for sure how happy wed be if we had the bills of a big,e xpensive wedding to pay off thoughRubes5529noreply@blogger.com